Control Your Thoughts

We’re back at the start of a brand new week! Today we’re going to chat all things subconscious ✨

I truly love this subject! I think we underestimate how much power we have over the things that influence what we think as adults. Once we become aware of these influences, we can begin to change our subconscious thoughts.

When I started planning out this series of posts, this country was already dealing with a pandemic. Now, we’re dealing with two pandemics: Systemic Racism & COVID-19.

Now more than ever, I feel this is a great time to look at the things that we’re exposed to so that we can change the system that we are a part of while we are working on going for what we want.


Here we go…

Your Subconscious Mind and Why It’s So Important

Did you know that you have at least two minds? Some experts believe that humans have three minds but I’ll keep it simple in this post.

You have your conscious mind which is active when you are. It fills your head with chatter all of the time.

Then there is your subconscious mind which never sleeps. It remembers everything and will hold all of your values and beliefs. It shapes who you are and whether you will be successful or not.

Fortunately you can change what is stored in your subconscious mind.

Your Subconscious doesn’t care about Good and Bad

Perhaps “doesn’t care” is not the right term – unable to distinguish between good and bad is probably more appropriate. Your subconscious mind will accept any information that you feed into it. The more that you think and act on that information the stronger it becomes.

Here’s an example. If you had a bad experience in your life then this can become an irrational fear in your subconscious mind. Let’s say that you were forced to speak in public and it didn’t go well. You were extremely embarrassed by this event and you don’t want to experience this again.

So you create a belief in your subconscious that you can’t do public speaking. You avoid every possible opportunity to speak in public and this strengthens the belief in your subconscious. This is a bad thing for you but your subconscious doesn’t care. All it wants to do is protect you.

If you have negative thoughts about a specific thing or event then this will form a limiting belief in your subconscious mind. So if you have a goal to find a higher paying job then one of the skills that you will need is likely to be the ability to speak in public.

Your Conscious Mind is the Gatekeeper

Everything that’s in your subconscious mind has been allowed to end up there via your conscious mind. So if you continually have negative thoughts about public speaking then you are telling your subconscious mind to protect you from it.

The good news here is that you can change your thoughts in your conscious mind to remove or replace limiting beliefs in your subconscious. This is something that you’ll need to work on and it is not magic. You need to be persistent if you want to make changes to your subconscious.

Neutralize Negative Thoughts

You can neutralize the negative thoughts that you experience with positive ones. So if you have a thought that says “I can never speak in public” you can neutralize this with “I can speak in public because I can do anything”.

By neutralizing your negative thoughts in this way you will send the right signals to your subconscious mind to pave the way to change any limiting beliefs. The next step in the process is to show your subconscious that you really mean business by taking action.

Tackle your Irrational Fears

Whatever irrational fears you have the best way to tackle them is to just do it anyway. So if you have a fear of public speaking then get out there and do some public speaking! You can start in a small way with a friendly audience. Learn as much as you can about the subject and practice regularly.

Overcoming your irrational fears doesn’t happen overnight. With all of the things that we’re putting into practice, I encourage you to give yourself grace. You are on your own path and it won’t look the same as anyone else. Next up, we’ll go over tapping into your resilience.

Until next time!

~ Ash

PS – I wrote a guide encompassing all of the topics I’m covering here along with some tools to help you get to where you want to be. Click the image below to grab your copy ❤

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Hi I’m Ashley! I help busy women create impact in their lives one step at a time. Please follow me on Instagram @ashley_mars to connect with me! If you’d like to work with me or have any questions, my inbox is always open!