Raise Your Confidence

Hi Friends! We’re almost finished with this series on getting what you want! Hope you’ve been enjoying it so far! 

Today we’re going to tackle confidence…. 💪

It’s going to be very difficult for you to achieve your goals and get what you really want if you are low on confidence. There will be times when you need a high degree of confidence to tackle something that you’ve never done before.

This is doable. When you tackle new things you push the boundaries of your comfort zone. Far too many people stay in their comfort zone for their entire life. They would never take on anything that they had never done before. You don’t want to be like this do you? This is why you should work on your self-confidence and believe that you can tackle anything.

Irrational Fear

Let’s talk about this annoying part of ourselves… Your subconscious mind will protect you from things that you’re fearful of. If a hungry lion is loose in the city then your subconscious will do everything possible to help you keep out of its path. Which is fine because a lion out and about can pose a real danger to you.

However…. if you have an irrational fear of public speaking your subconscious will treat this in the same way. It’ll help you to avoid every possible opportunity for you to make a public speech. This kind of fear is irrational and doesn’t help you at all.

If you have these kinds of irrational fears then you’ll give your confidence a massive boost by overcoming them. How do you do that? The best way is to tackle irrational fears head on. Just do it anyway despite the pain. Note: If you have a phobia, it’s best to get professional help.

Force yourself to make small public speeches if this is one of your fears. Start with a small and friendly audience of family members and friends and then get braver. Learn the best techniques for public speaking and then put this into practice. You’ll send the right signals to your subconscious and your confidence will increase significantly.

Is your Self Esteem high?

I want you to be honest with yourself here. What do you really think about yourself? Are some things good and some things bad? Do you really love yourself? Do you beat yourself up regularly if you make a mistake or for any other reason?

If you want to be super confident then your self esteem needs to be high. If you have a low opinion of yourself then you need to work on this right now. Write down what you think your weaknesses are and then turn these around into positive statements.

For example if you think “I’m not good in social situations” turn this into “I’m a social magnet and always get what I want from social situations”. The reason that you need to do this is to create a list of positive affirmations that you can read out loud every morning and evening to boost your self esteem.

Use a Physical Anchor for Instant Confidence

This is very easy to do and very powerful. Think back to something that you achieved in the past. It needs to be something challenging that you are really proud of. Reflect on how this makes you feel and make the feelings really strong.

When these feelings are at their peak squeeze your thumb and forefinger together to “anchor” the feeling. Now when you need a confidence boost in the future all you need to do is squeeze your thumb and forefinger together.

There are still some things that I’m uncomfortable with and I still have to practice pushing myself through it. Showing up online every day is still a challenge. As an introvert, this not how I envision spending my time however I do it because it means I get to connect with other people like me.

I hope this portion of our conversation leaves you feeling supported. You can do anything you put your mind to!

Next up we’ll get into creating empowering daily rituals. This is one of the best ways to help encourage your subconscious mind to help you take action to reach your goals.

Seen you soon!


PS – If any of this is resonating and you’d like a more in depth guide to getting what you want, check out my guide! Click the image below to learn more!

Join My Mailing List!

Subscribe for fitness & motivation tips, access to freebies, and more!

Thank you for subscribing!

Hi I’m Ashley! I help busy women create impact in their lives one step at a time. Please follow me on Instagram @ashley_mars to connect with me! If you’d like to work with me or have any questions, my inbox is always open!